Whether you have already experienced significant loss or are about to, you can be in a better emotional place than you currently are, and it can start happening today.
While grief is normal and natural, most of the information passed on within our society about dealing with grief is not normal, natural or helpful. Grief is an emotional response to loss, but most of the information we have learned about dealing with loss is intellectual.
The majority of incorrect ideas about dealing with loss can be summed up in six myths, which are so common that nearly everyone recognizes them.
The Six Myths of Grief:
- Time heals all wounds
- Grieve alone
- Be strong for others
- Don’t feel bad
- Replace the loss
- Keep busy
Looking at the myth that “time heals” creates the idea that a person just has to wait, and they will feel better. Some people wait 20, 30, 40 years, and still don’t feel better. And the hurt remains just as strong or worsens.
If your goal is to get past your grief, recovery can be accomplished by discovery and completing all of the undelivered communications that accrue in relationships. We are all advised to “let go” and “move on” after losses of all kinds. Most of us would do that if we knew how.
“Thank you [Anne] for being so loving, real and authentic.” – Susan B.